Articles tagged with: Caregiving

Assisted Living: Resident Bill of Rights

Posted by: The Bristal

Dear Maryellen,

Can you tell us if there is some type of bill of rights in NY State for residents of assisted living facilities? I have heard all good things about The Bristal in Lynbrook, NY. Thanks. -Richard

Dear Richard,

The New York State Department of Health supervises adult care homes (residential care facilities for adults) throughout the state. Here are the Patient Bill of Rights adopted by The Bristal Assisted Living Communities for your review. I hope this gives you the information you need.

1. You have the right to receive courteous, fair and respectful care and treatment, and not be physically, … read more

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Signs Your Parent Needs More Help

Posted by: The Bristal

Dear Maryellen,

When do we know it’s time to consider a change for our mother? – Jen, Hewlett, NY

Dear Jen,

As an adult child, the first thing you look for are subtle changes in mood, surroundings and behavior. Perhaps your mom is not taking her meds properly. Dad is having difficulty getting around. Bills are piling up, forgotten or ignored. Interest in life issues begins to wane. Your loved one no longer leaves the house, so she really isn’t socializing anymore. They spend hours glued to the TV, dosing to the point where they can’t sleep at night. These are all telltale … read more

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Staying Active at Assisted Living

Posted by: The Bristal

Dear Maryellen,

With mom 86, and dad recently gone, is Assisted Living a good choice to help mom stay active? -Diana, Manhattan, NY

Dear Diana,

The first thing you’ll want to do is to give your mother the time she needs to fully and sufficiently grieve. Your family shouldn’t make any major decisions during this critical period. And even after that vital time has passed, it’s difficult to suggest with certainty what might be best for her, because there are no cookie-cutter solutions.

However, that said, I can tell you why I personally prefer the Assisted Living approach. Assisted Living allows your … read more

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Talking to Your Parents About Assisted Living

Posted by: The Bristal

Dear Maryellen,

How do I broach the subject with my father about moving into an Assisted Living community? -Michael, Merrick, NY

Dear Michael,

No doubt, this will be one of the toughest conversations you will need to start with your father but start it you must, especially if he’s beginning to let himself go in care and appearance.

Here’s what I always advise: Acknowledge his need for independence and self-sufficiency, but stress your concern for his health and safety. Tell him no permanent decisions need to be made – and there’s no need to sell his house right away; but, yes, you … read more

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Assisted Living vs. Other Senior Care Services

Posted by: The Bristal

Dear Maryellen,

Why should I choose Assisted Living over other senior living settings? -Jay, East Williston, NY

Dear Jay,

In a word, I would say “engagement.” One of the most important things seniors lose with age is their sense of daily purpose – of usefulness and involvement. Their children are grown and busy. Their friends and family have moved away or passed on. Sadly, they spend a good part of their day contemplating the same.

Unlike nursing home care or in-home supervised care, I prefer Assisted Living because the lifestyle is social – not clinical. The Assisted Living day is focused on … read more

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